27 May

Conforming to What



I am not here to confrom to anything. Awake.  Alive. Redeemed. Speaking Truth.


If I shatter your little illusion, bummer. Life is tough, get a helmet.

The act of conforming is: to act in accordance or harmony; comply; to act in accord with the prevailing standards, attitudes, practices, etc., of society or a group: to be or become similar in form, nature, or character.

God says,  Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:2
It is said the world runs on Dunkin, but I digress.
Alcohol consumption is now modeled to much of the living world as fun, a good time, deserved R &R.
It comes is all packages, translates to all cultures and has the same effects in culture that we see listed in the above notes statistics in America.
And the party rages on.
What happens in America if you step off of the platform society finds acceptable? You are excluded. So we once again do what the Bible says not to do and make divisions.
The Bible says if what you eat or drink makes another stumble then stop. But we don’t stop, we move on. We excommunicate and expel the ones who learn how dangerous alcohol is, the truth sounds like hate and is unpopular but the truth is alcohol is a gateway drug and is a neurotoxin.
I married into a family that consumes at almost every event, alcohol is present for all things.
I struggled with alcohol addiction in my 20s after forming an unhealthy relationship with it. It was my courage and charisma for years. In my 30’s though it was insidious. I was not in the fervor of my youth any longer I simply was fitting into society. I had a new job, was in Rome doing as Romans do. In this new role I assumed that I’d be safe.
By the time I was drinking every day again, it was medicine, for pain, the pain of my life. Amid all the DR’s and pills that did nothing, the wine and beer took the edge from me, I was able to relax and laugh.
Little did I know I was healing problems on my body. On Methotrexate and getting my liver tested every 6 weeks did not bode well with binge drinking. As I got sicker and sicker from the viruses and bacteria in me, the deeper the Dr went with treatment, I was told not to drink. But I did. Being in social circles makes me stressed, I am an introvert by nature and have never fit in with the masses. It grafted me in and I became part of the culture around me.
Once I was being treated and tested they found my body never could process alcohol, no wonder I got so very sick from it. It poisoned me, it poisoned my kids and relationships.
The ones who gave it to me early could have killed me. Yes I always was called weak by the consumption crowd, told you can’t handle it…..right I could not.
Now it is the culture who is intolerant of my staunch abstinence and defend their positions. What rights do former addicts have? Can they still see the people and go the places they did? No. And does society make that any easier? No. We make a way for the everyone who is set apart by something but not the ones caught in the crossfire of society’s love for the bottle? These get treated like outsiders, pushed to AA meetings just to say sober, pushed into seclusion so temptation does not rule over you. What a selfish culture indeed. What a shame.
Fast forward to today. As I read Romans today and was reminded of how we are grafted into God’s Family, I see also how we get grafted into unhealthy places.
I have had to separate myself from most events I used to attend. Oddly when you step up and say I have a problem, they do not stop, they get offended when you speak up and continue without you.
Today I will spend my day alone by choice. The event gets planned without me, and  will be happening without me. Not once did anyone consider any of this. They do not ask, do not care.
Sadly I have seen the level of selfishness and my way that dominates this culture today. But I refuse to be a victim of it.
Dear reader who also is set apart. Jesus said come outside the city where the party is to outside the gate. That is where He is. He went to the events to heal and show the glory of God not to pander. TheBible says in Proverbs, “Let beer be for those who are perishing, wine for those who are in anguish!”
We are told to find out what pleases God, I have found drunkenness is dissipation and bring forth no fruit of the spirit. I speak against it as it does not edify, nor does it build up any man. That makes me a freak here and I let my freak flag fly. Unashamed. Outside the camp. 
Much love peeps <3

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